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Sunday, March 31, 2013

MY BIG SECRET DIVORCE

Three years ago I couldn't tell anyone I was divorced without bursting into tears.



Now, I smile and when their reply's "Sorry" I say "No. No problem." Recently, I was asked "Do you actually tell people you are divorced?" by an elderly woman my reply baffled her so much and from what I understood, I am not supposed to be talking about it. I don't know but I don't think I have anything to be ashamed of. 
What's really irritating is some people's response, the "why? what happened?" Nothing. We got married, we got divorced. Simple straight forward arrangement. Many people find it very impossible to accept that the marriage just didn't work out. What's amusing is them trying to create reasons for the divorce such as; "it's your fault, I'm sure you were impatient or nagged a lot" some after knowing my ex husband is a military man assume all sort of indecent happenings which is sad, really.
We can never understand the concept of divorce. It happens and then each party is trying to move on with what is left of their lives. Mind your business. What may cause a rift in some families may bring other families closer together. There is never a single reason for it. It is a series of complex compound reasons. Accept whatever a divorcee tells you is the reason and if they don't, try not to ask.

8 comments:

  1. I hate it when people assume. Never assume. theyre not walking in the person's shoes so they don't know and they don't understand... sigh

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    1. Exactly my dear! And when you try to explain they still will never understand! Thank you so much :D

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  2. "What may cause a rift in some families may bring other families closer together."

    Very true indeed. Enough said:)

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    1. Thank you mighty much. So glad you agree :D

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  3. Even though they asked about the "Why?”, “What happened?", the only people who will really know the truth will be the people involved. I'm pretty sure that a divorce wouldn't just burst out of nowhere, especially about silly petty things only. Married couples have problems and issues that we may not understand and it's up to us to respect that and give them a little of their privacy. Janay Stiles

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    1. I just wish everyone would understand that and let the matter rest. Thank you so much, Janay <3.

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  4. At first, you will truly find it hard to share your divorce story to others. You somewhat feel ashamed as you think you've failed in a relationship you thought was perfect. Likewise, you feel afraid as some people might criticize or judge you. At the end of the day, what you need to focus on is your happiness. You should disregard those indolent opinions of others and the negative thoughts you have in mind. They might not have the idea that you're embarking on the best or the most exciting time of your life.

    Robert Smith @ Kurtz & Blum

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    1. So, so very true Robert! Every single word seems like you got them out of me ^-^ Thank you so much. I really appreciate your comment. Thank you :)

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